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Understanding Social Anxiety

Social Anxiety 101

It’s an intense fear of being judged or rejected in a social situation accompanied by feelings of worry and distress. You can cure social anxiety by learning to manage how your mind and body reacts to certain triggers.

Social Anxiety in Men

It’s natural to feel nervous in social situations, especially if you’re talking in front of a crowd or on a first date. These feelings stem from our evolutionary drive for social connection and finding a mate.

A social anxiety disorder takes this nervousness to the next level. We become hyper-aware of people’s reactions and inaccurately perceive their facial expressions and body language as a rejection or threat towards us. We then develop an intense fear of being judged, criticized, or rejected in social situations.

If you understand your uniqueness and how you’re contributing to the lives of others, you’ll have more confidence in situations that at the moment seem untenable. We can help you move past anxiety and give you the confidence to launch your true persona.

Social Anxiety Symptoms

When men with social anxiety disorder have to be around other people or perform, they tend to feel:

01 Physical

  • Avoid eye contact
  • Mind goes blank or into overdrive
  • Nausea, butterflies
  • Rigid, tense body posture
  • Pounding heart, tight chest
  • Difficulty talking, tight throat

02 Behavioural & Emotional

  • Negative thoughts and beliefs
  • Belief that you’re inadequate
  • Avoid doing things in public
  • Escape feared situations

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Treating Social Anxiety Disorder

The good news is, social anxiety in men is common and with the right treatment, most men recover. To help you manage your social anxiety, we’ll first look for the root of it which might be due to inherited traits, your brain structure, or a learned behaviour. It could also be due to family history, negative experiences, temperment, new work demands, or having a condition or appearance that draws attention. We’ll then use counselling and coaching to diagnose your issue and move forward with a plan of action that you can take with you to launch your life.

7 %

Social Anxiety Disorder affects 15 million adults, or nearly 7% of the U.S. population. It’s as equally common in men and women.

- Anxiety and Depression Association of America

36 %

36% of people with social anxiety disorder report experiencing symptoms for 10 or more years before seeking help.

- Anxiety and Depression Association of America

13 yrs

Thirteen years old is the typical age of onset for social anxiety disorders.

- The Michigan Daily

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