Realize Your True Worth

From Underdog to Top Dog

Self esteem is about how much you like and value yourself. Too little, and you’re left feeling inadequate and defeated. Having a balanced self-of-self is integral to a happy life, and we can help you achieve it.

Self Esteem Issues in Men

Historically our sense of self was defined by our community and cultural values. But in the modern world, we’re left on our own to decide what our values and beliefs about ourselves are. This is further complicated by our societal views on masculinity, telling us that men should be strong and in control.

No amount of prestige or financial success can make us like ourselves more. Having low-self esteem can originate from many sources like childhood bullying, unsuccessful romantic relationships, perfectionism, comparing yourself to cultural ideals (especially in the day and age of social media), and even how we were raised (typically by parents who showed transactional love based on the grades you got in school, rather than giving unconditional love).

Men of all ages, races and professions struggle with low self-esteem, and no amount of power or money will fix it, because feeling adequate has to do with internal, rather than external, approval. Working with a counsellor can help unravel where self-esteem comes from and provide practical tools to approach life from the top.

Symptoms of Low Self Esteem in Men

Some men with low self-esteem might have superficial romantic relationships, a lack of real friends and perform poorly at school or work. Other guys might put on a false front to impress others, constantly overachieve, be a workaholic and compensate with material possessions. Others suffer silently amongst a sea of self-doubt, unable to take a compliment, always overthinking and over apologizing.

01 Physical

  • Fatigue
  • Insomnia
  • Headaches
  • Heavy feelings
  • Tight chest & throat
  • Limited eye contact

02 Emotional & Behavioural

  • Negative outlook
  • Lack of confidence
  • Unable to express needs
  • Can’t accept feedback
  • Hostility
  • Feelings of failure, shame

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Improving Your Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem in men is more common than you think, and it’s something we can deal with. To help you improve your self-esteem, we’ll first look for its root cause, which is likely due to how you were raised, childhood bullying, unsuccessful relationships, perfectionism, comparing yourself to cultural ideals, and more. We’ll then use counselling and coaching to look at your attitudes and behaviours to explain what’s holding you back and teach you how to think differently about yourself. Finally, we’ll teach you the tools you need to treat your own self-esteem issues, making way for you to live a better life.

60 yrs

The age when self-esteem is the highest.

- Time Magazine

$28 K

Those with high self-esteem earn $28,000 more annually than those with low self-confidence.

- NBC News

2.5 x

Teenage boys with high-self esteem are 2.5 times more likely to initiate sex than boys with low self-esteem.

- Very Well Mind

Evolve Yourself.

Exceptional professional service. My counsellor is amazing. Friendly, approachable and made me ask myself questions that I didn’t ask myself.


Making Progress

I still have a way to go, but I feel like I understand what’s getting in my way better. I haven’t been able to get that from talking before.

Xander, 32

Practical and Simple.

My experience at Manifest has been really beneficial! My counsellor helped me feel comfortable, and at ease to open up. The approach to counselling is practical and simple.


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