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Feeling lonely and isolated is a sign that you don’t have a tribe, and you lack connections with quality social relationships. Investigating loneliness can help you develop comfort and peace with yourself.

Feeling Lonely

Most of us will feel alone at some point in our lives – in fact, one-third of men report they regularly are feeling lonely. This is due to how men have morphed from the traditional, tribal packs of our roots to the individualistic, every-man-for-themself society we live in today.

We don’t know our neighbours. Friends on social media aren’t real connections. And as we age, we lose our groups of male friends to suburbia, family life and work and we don’t know where to go when we feel lonely. We start feeling trapped by the constraints of modern life, and even though we might be surrounded by scores of people all the time, we struggle to find ones we can really open up to. We also feel isolated because we tend not to talk about the tough stuff going on in our lives. It’s easier to talk about sports than it is to admit we’re anxious about our divorce. Ignoring loneliness can lead to some serious health problems, including depression, diabetes, substance abuse, and more.

Fortunately, the cure is easy. Research shows that men bond and create friendships by participating in activities together. If you feel alone, the best thing you can do for loneliness is to be comfortable with yourself, celebrate your uniqueness, and have gritty conversations that matter.

Symptoms of Feeling Lonely

Any guy at any age can feel alone, sad, abandoned or isolated, even if they’re surrounded by people. It can occur in short-term bouts, but if the feelings of isolation continue for the long-term, it can become chronic. Here are some symptoms:

01 Physical

  • Exhausted, burnt out
  • Being homebound
  • Disturbed sleep
  • Weakened immune system

02 Emotional & Behavioural

  • Feelings of emptiness or separation
  • Can’t connect on a deep level
  • No close friends
  • Negative thoughts, self-doubt
  • Value material possessions over people
  • Blow things out of proportion

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Treating Loneliness

The good news is that feeling lonely and feeling isolated is common, and treatable with the right help. To help you manage your loneliness, we’ll first investigate its root cause, which might be due to a lack of bonds with real friends, not being authentic with yourself, or something else. We’ll then use counselling and coaching to work together and look at your attitudes and behaviours to discover what’s holding you back and how to think differently about your problem. Finally, we teach you the tools of what to do when you feel lonely, making way for you to lead a more authentic, connected life.

15 yrs

Feeling lonely can shorten your life by 15 years.

-Scientific American

30 %

30 percent of men regularly feel lonely.

- Men’s Health

2 x

Men between the ages of 19-32 who spend 2 hours a day on social media are two times as likely to feel isolated.

- Men’s Health

90 hrs

It takes 90 hours to spend with someone before they’re considered a friend; 200 hours before they’re considered close.

- Men’s Health

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