Guilt evolved as a way to let someone know they behaved badly. From an evolutionary perspective, guilt helped tribes regulate their members. Engaging in socially unacceptable behaviour led the “guilty party” to suffer social isolation, which, in those days, was deadly.
Today guilt has morphed into a complex emotion, compounded by society’s conflicting views on what constitutes a moral transgression. A guilt complex can afflict people for many reasons, but it’s basically a feeling that results from something we did, want to do (but know we shouldn’t), or didn’t do but should have. Meanwhile, misplaced guilt happens in men who were abused as kids and made to feel bad about existing. In all cases, guilt is difficult for us to talk about, making it hard to ask for help.
Carrying a guilt complex around without dealing with it can make us feel worthless and humiliated, eventually causing self-esteem issues and self-defeating behaviours. Working through your guilt with a professional can help you understand where your guilt comes from, and move towards a living a truthful life.
Guilt can be a productive emotion that, when listened to and understood, can lead to positive change in a guy’s life. However, if a man lives with unresolved or misplaced guilt, he lives in distress and with a constant fear of being found out. This fear can weigh him down, leading to anxiety and a host of other physical and mental problems.
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